doug kubik
the man, the myth, the dougie
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This is a space to share stories, anecdotes, Dougisms, and anything else that celebrates the humor and loyalty and love of our Dougie.
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doug fit in with our family so well. he insisted that we drove him crazy, but we all knew he’d give us the shirt off his back. he showed up for us again and again and again. love you dougie ❤
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the biggest stinker and the biggest sweetheart all at the same time — he made my mom so happy and that’s all I could have asked for. love you big poppa forever and ever 💗
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One of my favorite things about Dougie was his “I’ll figure it out” attitude. Dude was literally using YouTube tutorials to learn carpentry when adding additions to his house! No project was too big or weird, he was going to figure it out. We all know that didn’t mean perfect, but not knowing how to do something never stopped him. What a legend.
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He always referred to himself as 71-Hillbilly-1 when he called dispatch on the telephone.
I once dispatched him to a call of a possible body part in a bucket in his beat. Turns out it was a mannequin’s head. From that day on, I would occasionally mention the Joe Pesci movie “8 heads in a duffel bag” to hear that distinctive chuckle of his.
He loved to wear a Santa hat in uniform around the holidays too.
Gonna miss you, brother… This really sucks 😞
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When he showed up to Kendra and Shawn’s 80’s party in Santa Cruz wearing those short jean shorts, I knew he was someone special. What an absolute gift he gave you, Stacey, and how very lucky you were to have found each other. May his memory be a blessing.
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I worked with Doug during our ICAC days. I was the DA assigned to the unit. I was shocked and saddened to hear of Doug’s passing. I loved his enthusiasm and his dedication to making our community safer. I could always count on him to bring laughter and compassion on some pretty tough days. We had the best of times together. We talked about our families and future plans once we moved on from our jobs. I will never understand why great people like Doug are taken too soon. He was a true gentleman and words are not enough to describe him and mark left upon us. I was so lucky to have him as a crime fighter and more importantly a friend. Dougie I will miss you. To his family I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing him with us.
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In 2008 I had been invited to attend an ICAC search warrant; just prior to me actually getting into the unit. It was the first of many interactions I would have with Sex Doug. I was introduced to Drug Doug and Sex Doug that same day; meeting Sex Doug as he hovered over a computer in the suspect’s bedroom. Looking over his giant shoulder he announced “I found it”. He turned and looked at me and asked if I had been signed off to view child sexual abuse images. I introduced myself and explained I was soon going to be a part of the unit. He had a 6th sense about him and he to me “no you are not ready ” and went back to his work, inviting me to leave. He was right. I wasn’t ready (no one ever is). But he was protecting me until I was able to get myself more prepared. Doug was one of the most amazing people and he had an uncanny ability to care for others. This big brother-little brother relationship continued for years. He was a mountain of a man with a heart just as big. I am so glad he found and followed his dreams to travel with Stacey. He was always smiling, but never as much as when she was around.
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George Schifano
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I was Doug’s Recruit Training Officer in the Academy. He was a hard worker and had a very positive attitude and was very supportive of his academy classmates. He went on to do a fine job with the Sheriffs Office and was an asset to the organization and the profession. RIP Doug you will be missed
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I worked with Doug for many years (mostly in the beginning) of his career with the Santa Clara County Sheriff’s Office. When he was a brand new patrol officer working the “hill car” (or as we called it, H1), I worked the southern Saratoga beat, or S5, as a field training officer. If I remember correctly, we worked a lot of the same days from 2004-2007, when I eventually left patrol. I, often, was his fill unit in the mountains anytime he had a call for service requiring a second unit. Doug was a VERY competent deputy, and didn’t often need my help. But he would have me fill on his calls, sometimes for no other reason than to crack a joke about the turd he was about to take to jail, or sometimes just to get me to drive somewhere ridiculously far, only to find out he wanted my trainee to fill out a simple tow sheet for a car he was about to take.
From day one, we quickly became friends, and I learned that I could really trust him to have my back. And he would always do what he could to ensure every member of our team got to go home safely after every shift. His fantastic “gift of gab” helped calm numerous tense situations, and was an absolute asset everywhere we went. His ability to talk to anyone about anything was really one of his best unique qualities.
Unfortunately, after 2007, I don’t believe we ever worked in the same division at the same time again. However, I saw him numerous times on my visits to headquarters when he worked on the S.A.F.E. taskforce, and during many training days for years and years until he retired.
And one thing always remained true. It didn’t matter if I hadn’t seen him in a year or just visited the week before, he would always greet me with a loud-Doug-voice “Heeeey Dan” from across the room, and then would chuckle on his way over to me to follow up with a heavy handshake, or (most often) a bear hug.
I have always missed running into him since his retirement. And, as I wrap up my own law enforcement career next year, I would easily put Doug in my top-10 of deputies that I trusted and respected the most, and also had the absolute most fun with.
And I can’t finish this without remembering a morning long ago before a shift in the locker room, when Doug declared from across the room that he had just bought a new pair of uniform pants. And as he sauntered over to my locker, wearing just his t-shirt and this “new pair of pants,” he turned to the side and asked me if they made his ass look big. I, of course, responded, “Yes, Doug, they do.” To which he grinned ear to ear, and announced something to the effect that his modeling career just wasn’t going to take off like he had hoped. And with that, we were both laughing hysterically.
Now I probably hadn’t seen Doug in almost 5 years. I still have his number in my cell phone. I guess I was hoping that someday I would use it again. But distance and life got in the way, and now I’m sorry that I waited too long. Lesson learned.
So long, my friend. You will always be remembered.
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Doug was so special. “Sex Doug” became a member of our ICAC team, and I always looked forward to our search warrant operations because he was there. We bonded over the difficult work we had to do in ICAC. He often told a silly joke…”brown chicken, brown cow” was one of the punchlines that comes to mind – delivered proudly with that goofy grin of his. Doug called me Kenny (he and Dan Ichige are the only two people allowed to call me that). We became good friends, and I fell in love with Stacey right away. She’s one of the easiest people to be around; genuine, funny, loving and playful. We began spending time together outside of work; Doug usually insisted on doing the barbecuing (although he liked it far more well-done than we did!) I loved Doug’s eclectic taste, his mountain cabin, and his never-ending projects making his house a home for Stacey and the girls. Doug built them cute pods in the tiny home he had in the mountains. Then a full addition. It was fun to watch him figure it out, and take pride in making a home for them.
Doug ALWAYS had music going. He had an eclectic taste in music, and he and Shawn often shared songs. You’d find speakers in every room of his house, and a portable speaker at any event. His sense of humor was my favorite part of his personality. Doug’s love for Stacey was evident in the flicker in his eyes. And, he loved the girls like his own. He protected them, joked with them, worried about them, and talked about them like any devoted and terrified parent who wanted the best for his girls.
I remember our trip to Cherry Lake (I think that’s the name of it) with our families, and regret that we didn’t have more of those adventures. When I close my eyes, I picture Doug standing in his outdoor kitchen, preparing a meal for us. I’ll remember how he was excited to DJ at a flop of an 80’s themed surprise birthday party for Shawn. Not too many men would show up in booty shorts and a mesh crop top…but Doug wore them proudly.
When Doug left his Department, and eventually moved to Wyoming, I was so sad that I would not be able to see him and Stacey as often. When they began living their dream of RV life, I was so excited for them. Our dreams for retirement were very much aligned. I had hoped to go visit them once I retired in September.
I’m so very sad to be saying goodbye to my friend Dougie. Stacey, we love you so much and I wish I was able to give you the biggest hug and support you through this difficult time. I’m so glad you were able to find Doug, and while I know we all wanted it to be longer. I also know you were the love of his life and the reason for the sparkle in his eyes. Some never find that – and I am so glad he did.
Love,
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I met Doug about four years ago. It was an instant friendship born of common personalities. I’m so proud of him for taking the big leap and spending this last year LIVINING, after giving so much! Go Doug. I’m a little miffed I won’t get to see you on your way back through Wyoming since we missed each other on your way north. God Bless you my friend. Now your really living!!!
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I admired so many things about Doug. His work ethic, his ability to do an incredibly difficult and taxing job and then come home and be present for his family. The energy and love he put into his homes to make them comfortable for his family. Cooking BBQ and delicious meals. Crafting and being creative. Sense of humor of course. And most of all how happy he made my dear friend Stacey. What a supportive and unconditionally loving partner. I was really hoping to get to spend time with him soon somewhere along his adventures and travels…was so inspired by his live life NOW attitude this past year. Its great to read all of these memories others had of him. What a guy….
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I briefly met Doug on a day where I traveled to Wyoming to get a tattoo by Zoë. Right from the moment I arrived, he immediately greeted me with the warmest attitude at the door and made me feel so welcome in him and his family’s home. Doug came in during my session and was joking around, making me laugh, and acting as if I was someone he had met before. He was so kind and sweet, and even in those short moments I could tell he loved Stacey so much!
I am sending my kindest regards to the family and everyone he touched! He will be very missed. ❤LikeLike
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I met Doug about 5 years ago when he joined the Wyoming ICAC team. It was an instant friendship, we would partner up on our drives across the state for our ICAC search warrants and our goal was to talk about anything but work.
Our talks would always veer toward whimsical existentialism. One of my favorites was, “What if we are part of a video game.” We would speculate what beings could only afford the base model of the game and chose the Zac and Doug characters and which beings could afford the limited edition game and got to choose the Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos characters.
Doug would give his signature Doug chuckle to the following statement: Guess the Mom of Doug’s player shut off the video game for not taking out the trash when he was told to.
Another talk was the innovation of the “Zoug Lane,” this lane would be mandatory in all future road construction projects. This never thought-of-before lane was the brilliant addition of a middle passing lane for 2 lane secondary highways in the State of Wyoming, hahahahaha
Doug, we made a great team brother, I considered you one of my dearest friends. I’ll see you in the next interdimensional game release.
Love ya buddy
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Heartbroken
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My uncle Doug was so funny. He was so nice, sweet and always there. I remember how comforting and kind he was when I was a teenager and Stacey and Doug brought me into their home. He always made me laugh and he had a way with a grill from what I remember. I loved my uncle doug so much!
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Doug was kind, caring and sincere. He made others feel comfortable around him. Doug made a difference in the lives he touched.
I am grateful to have known him.LikeLike
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My heart is saddened. When I first met Doug I remember liking him from the beginning. I will always remember him as kind and caring. He would give you the shirt off his back if he thought you needed it. I remember him inviting Ryan and I to go kayaking and we didn’t have one. No problem he went out of his way to let us borrow his extra one, blew it up for us and we’ll pretty much prepared everything for our fun filled day on the river. He taught us how to kayak. If he had it, he was more than willing to lend it.
Doug introduced me to smoked pork. He’s the reason we bought a smoker.
I remember him calling you Babe all the time last Fourth of July. He had the coolest set up for you guys. He was so dang tech savvy.LikeLike
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Dougie was our Son-in-Law & we loved him very much. This love grew the evening he proposed to our daughter Stacey. We had just finished dinner & about to have dessert when suddenly Doug got down on one knee, and gestured with his hand to first Stacey’s daughters then to Ronnie & I asking permission to marry Stacey.
This occurrence was one of many that Doug was a man that was always thinking of others first; a true family oriented man.LikeLike
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Stacey, We are so sorry for your loss. Doug was generous, caring, and larger than life. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
– Russ and Jenny.LikeLike
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Lisa and I have known Doug for over twenty years. I can count on one hand the number of people that I have had the honor of knowing and respecting as much as I did for Doug. Doug lived his life to the fullest without any reservations. The work he did at the Sheriff’s Office is a perfect example of his dedication to others. I don’t know many people that could deal day to day with the pedophiles and child molesters that he dedicated his life to stopping and still maintain the type of hold on reality that he did. How many children did Doug protect without them even knowing his name? It truly takes a special person to sacrifice that part of yourself to help those that can’t or are unable to help themselves. Lisa and I were devastated when we heard of Doug’s passing. It was absolutely the last thing we had expected to hear. It is just such a loss of a perfect person. To never hear his laugh or see his smile again is a loss I will carry with me forever. Our hearts go out to Stacey since they both had found each other, and they had grabbed on to the proverbial “brass ring”. Their future together was blindingly bright and completely unlimited. They were doing what we all wish we could do, and they had no end of their dream in sight. We are all better people for having had Doug let us be part of his life, for however short it might have been. With as much sincerity as I can say, please rest in peace Doug. I, and everyone else, will truly miss you. Thank you for sharing yourself with us Doug. Until we meet again.
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Doug made a difference in life. He made it better. It was an honor to know him, however briefly that was. My son just learned of his passing and said “That is so sad; I really liked him”. For a teenage boy to admit that, I know that he made an impression on him. To Doug, I wish him peace and love amongst the stars. To Doug’s family, I wish you peace in knowing that he is well thought of and still thought of. Hugs to you from Wyoming.
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I have been in some weird state of shock over this. It’s taken me this long to even admit he might be gone and write this. Doug was an amazing lover of life, and I will miss him. He had such an infectious spirit of FUN, and I loved being a tiny part of that. Like others have mentioned, the gleam in his eyes as a plan came rolling out of his mouth, and the way he shared all he had with those close to him stand out to me. I think of the words WARM and BEAR, and CARE when I picture him. I remember one time we were driving through Cupertino and passed him in his work vehicle on 85. We ended up meeting at the local park where he was working and had a great few minutes catching up since we hadn’t seen him for awhile. He didn’t have to, but he wanted too. He always wanted to make sure everyone around him was taken care of. Doug and Stacey were such a perfect match. Your bond to each other is amazing and lovely.
I miss you Doug.
I have a tiny solace that your spirit will live on with me and others that you touched in life.LikeLike
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Dear Dougie,
I love you so much and I miss you with all of my heart. When you came into our lives, you showed us what true love and care is. We could always joke about things and you taught me so much about what it means to have integrity and honor throughout life. I’m so glad that you and my mom found each other. You will always be remembered and loved. Thank you for being my Dad. It was so beautiful and special to have someone like you be a part of our lives.
Love,
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I’ll always remember his “Mutley” laugh, and how he got giddy and twinkly-eyed when he was interested in something. I’m so glad he found family and happiness.
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Still thinking about him. He left such an impact on those that knew him. We would make runs to Carl’s Jr to get breakfast burgers. What in infectious laugh. Miss you buddy.
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Happy belated birthday brother. Miss you every day.
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